Early Childhood Studies – a Global Perspective

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Communication – a reflection of self and others



Communication is a complex process that entails speaking, listening, understanding, remembering, and responding. As we listen, we pay attention to details and select those that we should understand and remember in order to deliver a feedback message. Speaking on the other hand, needs careful delivery of a message to which the listener can be attuned. In both contexts, listening and speaking, we identify the goal/s for communication, decide to use a language to which the participants can relate with, and recognise their cultures in order to adapt the delivery and content of the message to encourage interaction (O’Hair et.al., 2015).

My communication experiences vary in a wide scale. The differences in context depend on the purpose, audience, and relationship I have with the participant. It can be in a one to one, small or big group settings. In all these instances I demonstrate communication behaviours appropriate to the context. This has been confirmed upon evaluating my listening style profile, communication anxiety inventory and verbal aggressiveness and comparing it with other people’s perceptions about me. However, there remain communication behaviours that I maintain regardless of who I communicate with. These include attentiveness and responsiveness to the person/s I am communicating with. My self-perception of listening style is exactly the same with how my partner and my colleague evaluated my listening style. As such, I seem to be a people-oriented person, being able to empathise with the emotions of others. This is evident in the relationships I have forged at work, the community I am a part of and my family. Being able to trust others easily have helped me engage in pleasurable communication experiences. Both on personal and professional levels, people are able to disclose information that they sometimes would not choose to share with others. However, I maintain a line of distance hands-1022028_1280to ensure that I could still assimilate messages to guide my judgments. An interesting discovery was my communication anxiety inventory. I see myself having varied comfort levels depending upon the context when I communicate although it is not an aspect that I worry about. My partner and colleague, on the other hand, see me being comfortable and confident in any situation. All three of us work in the same organisation, so they have seen me communicate in personal, social, formal and informal contexts. They have been part of my small group conversations on social gatherings such as parties, as well as an audience when I speak to a large crowd of educators. It seemed that even if I feel a sense of discomfort in public speaking situations, I am able to mask my feeling, as even people who know me well do not recognise this.

My self-perception of my communication abilities can be seen similar to or different from the lens of others. A large part of it is dependent on my communication experiences with monkeys-152488_1280.pngthem. This experience includes how I have adjusted my communication approach to their cultures and personalities. Although the objectives of my communication with individuals and groups differ, I remain careful with my approach to communicate in order to maintain relationships – whether personal or professional.


O’Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J.  (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin’s.


Author: pamcee70

My name is Pam Castillo. I have been in the field of education for 24 years now. Although I have taught some levels in grade school, I have spent most of my years teaching children aged two to six years old. I am always amazed by the interactions I have every day with children. In an environment where children feel safe, they are confident to explore and make discoveries. These experiences prepare them for the bigger challenges in the future. I feel privileged to be a part of the learning journey of these young children especially if they still come to see me and reminisce the years we worked together.

2 thoughts on “Communication – a reflection of self and others

  1. Hi Pam,
    I really enjoyed reading your post it was very thoughtful and true. The part of your post that really resonates with me is the end when you talk about understanding the need to communicate differently with people but it is very important to still be with approach to help maintain relationships. I couldn’t agree more and feel this is very important as well. Great post!


  2. Sheymirra, I enjoyed reading your post. I am with you on the public speaking part. My mom believed that I was good at it and did not know that I had a problem with it. It is something that I believe that I should master though. At least it is great to learn from others what you can not see for yourself, that way we can make that change to make ourselves better. Awesome post!


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